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theletthemtheoryyeah
seemslikeyoureprettyreadytolikedivedeepintothiswholeideayeah
definitelyandhonestlysoMIimalreadylikeafanofrobinsworkyeah
thefivesecondruletotalgamechangerformeyeah
butthiswholeletthemtheorythingseemsitskind
kindtakingthingstoawholenewlevelitdies
especiallywhenitcomestorelationships
especiallyrelationshipsyeah
itreallydoesseemtotacklethisurge
weallhavetocontrolpeopleandsituationsaroundusyeah
thatshonestlywitlikereallyjumpedoutmefromallthestuff
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itslikethisconstantfeelingoflikeresponsibilityforhowotherpeopleactandreactandevenfeelanditsexhaustingit
itisexuustingandthatswherethebookstepsandanythingokay
theleftthemtheory
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okay
atitscore
itsreallyaboutrecognizingthoseliitsitsyourcontrolandthenfindingfreedominacceptingwhatyoucantchange
没的没有
okay
sohowdoesthatactuallyworkwellrobinsdividethetheoryintotwoparts
okay
letthemandletmeok
letthemisaboutacceptingotherpeoples
actionsandchoices
withouttryingtoforcethemtochange
okayitsaboutrecognizingtheirultimately
theirbehavioristheirresponsibilitynotyourssoiflikesomeonesconstantlylaterightoralwayslikeleavingtheirdishesinthesinkKIjustletthem
yeah
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itmightsoundthatwayinitiallyok
butitsreallyaboutshiftingyourfocusfromtryingtocontroltheexternalworldtomasteringyourinternalworldokay
andthatswherethatletmepartcomesinokay
tellmeabouttheletme
letmeisreclaimingyourpowerbyfocusingonyourownchoicesandresponses
okay
recognizingthatyouhavecontroloverhowyoureacttosituations
evenifyoucantcontrolthesituationsthemselvessoinsteadofstressingaboutwhythatpersonisalwayslate
ifocusonhowichoosetorespondtotheirlatessssthatsaninterestinglikeshiftinperspectiveyeah
andithinkwhatmakesusmorethanjustanotherselfhelptrendrightisthatrobinsconnectsittosomereallyprofoundphilosophicalandpsychologicalprinciplesokay
shetieseslelettheoryahtoancientphilosopheslikestouismandboodosmbothofwhichemphasizeacceptingwhatyoucantcontrolandfocusingonwhatyoucaniveiidoubledinstoyuismmyself
yeah
andicantotallyseetheconnection
yeah
buthaveamodernpsychology
itsldofabsolutelyrobininsalsolinksletthemtodetachmenttheory
whichexploreshowourearlychildhoodexperiencesshapeourabilitytoformhealthyattachments
andthenalsocopewithdidificulttmotionokkdedetachmenttheoryreallyemphasizessettingboundariesinfindingemotionalindependence
whichalliesperfectlywiththeletmeaspectofthetheory
soitsnotjustlikeromanceispersonaltakeonthings
shesgroundingitinsomeprettylikesolidintellectualframeworksexactly
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